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Now…let’s dig in!
On yesterday’s launch announcement post, a comment was left by Sarah asking for small ways she can start embracing “Don’t Settle” to begin seeing change take place in her decisions. It was a great thing for her to ask for.
We’ve all heard the saying “Life is a journey” so frequently that it’s almost become a cliché statement that we blurt out when times get tough. But if we stop and think about it for a second, it’s really true.
If you want to become a millionaire and you’re starting at $0, you don’t expect to reach that goal overnight. You understand that it will take time. Each and every day, you must do small things that, over time, will move you closer to that goal.
The same is true for all areas of your life. In order for us to make decisions about things such as which job to take, who to marry, and where to live, we must first understand where we are trying to end up.
Over the next few posts, we are going to walk step-by-step through this process as a community. We’ll take small steps that will move us progressively closer to having a clear path and I will share with you how I do this in my life.
The reason for the small steps is simple: we tend to quit when things look too daunting or overwhelming. So we need to break the process down into small victories. Completing one of them will give you the confidence to complete the next step and so on.
The very first step is to create a vision.
How to Put Yourself in the Top 3% of the World
Do you want to be in the top 8% of the world’s population? Create goals for your life. Sadly, only 8% of the world’s population have goals.
Do you want to be in the top 3% of the world’s population? Write those goals down. Even more tragic is that only 3% of the world’s population have written goals. It’s been repeatedly studied and proven that people who write down their goals are far more likely to achieve them.
We know this and, yet, we find goal-setting immensely difficult. Why?
To Create Goals, You Must Have a Vision for Your Life
Most people struggle with creating goals because they don’t have a vision or a mission for their lives. They may have general and vague ideas of where they’d like to “end up” such as:
- I’d like to have a family.
- I’d like to retire at 55.
- I’d like to own my own business one day.
- I’d like to be healthier.
The problem with these is that they’re really nothing more than wishes. They aren’t objectives and they aren’t missions or visions or goals. Most people then proceed to live their lives not doing much to actually see them through.
Where there is no vision, the people perish. – Proverbs 29:18
Instead, we need to create a vision for our lives and then work backwards into what we need to do each day to move ourselves toward that vision.
Where to Begin
In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen Covey wrote the following:
Begin with the end in mind.
Sounds simple, right? It is until you sit down to do it. We have a lot of mental blocks that surround projecting out 5, 10, or 20 years. But we must push through and do it.
How to Create a Vision for Your Life
I want to give you a 3 step process for creating a vision for your life.
Step 1: Block out at least 2-3 hours on your calendar
Pick a weekend or an evening and block out at least 2-3 hours to complete this exercise. Shut out all distractions. No computer, no TV, no phone, no kids, no pets – nothing. You need quiet time to think and to dream.
Step 2: Pick a time frame
Depending on where you are in your life, first pick a time frame of 5, 10, or 20 years out. It must be at least 5 years out and you can go out further than 20 years if you’d really like to. In case you’re wondering, I use 20 years as the starting point for myself, but don’t feel like you need to start there. Try 5 years if this seems overwhelming.
Step 3: Dream
Answer the question, “Where do I want my life to be in insert time frame years?”
What do you want to be doing for a career? Do you want kids? Do you want to be married? Do you want to have started a business? Do you want to be 50 pounds lighter? Do you want to be more involved in your community or church? Do you want deeper relationships? How much money would you like to be making?
Just write it all down. Don’t edit yourself. Write it in list form or in paragraph/story form – whatever works for you. When I did this, I wrote it out in paragraph/story form. I wrote about what my business will look like, what my marriage to Lisa will look like, what our relationship with our kids will be like, etc.
A Little Advice
You may be tempted to dream small. Don’t. Most people are tempted to set the bar way too low out of fear.
Also, be on guard against the temptation to kill your dreams before you even begin to act on them. Ignore that voice in your head that tells you you’re being ridiculous and that you’ll never accomplish it. Don’t let it win.
I don’t know about you, but I work better with deadlines and targets. So I want to offer this challenge: do this in the next 11 days. Why 11 days? Thanksgiving weekend is coming up and most people will have a few days off and can make time for this exercise. If you can do it sooner, don’t wait. I will be issuing more challenges in the next week so the sooner you can do this, the better.
Share Your Thoughts
Do you have a vision for your life? Will you accept this challenge? What’s been holding you back? What other questions do you have about creating a vision or mission for your life? Share your thoughts and questions in the comments below so that we can help you on your journey!